The Phases You Experience During A Breakup


You begin to question what you did wrong. You begin to look back and blame yourself for why it ended. You tell yourself you’re not good enough, you’re not pretty or handsome enough, you’re just not enough. Then you begin to tell yourself that perhaps they never loved you. 

Putting on a Mask to be Strong 

Then comes the “I need to be strong” for myself phase. You tell everyone that you’re okay, that you are moving on. You tell this to people and you start believing and fooling yourself into thinking that you’ve moved on. 


Every memory you’ve ever had starts to come back piece by piece. You cry yourself to sleep like all the times you did before, but it hurts more now that the fog of the break-up lifted. 

Support from Others 

As you drift in and out of reality, you use your friends and family to distract you. You know they will always be there for you and assure you everything will be okay, but for some reason, you don’t believe them. It feels as though you have lost a piece of yourself. It will never be replaced and you will never be the same again. 

Longing For Someone

For a while, you’re stuck in a slump. The days seem to waste away as you drag yourself from one task to another. Missing the intimate touches you’ve once had and talking to someone who was once your best friend. Someone who loved you and who you loved just as much. But now, you have grown apart. You ache for them so much that it breaks your heart over and over again.

Moving On 

You begin to gather old memories you’ve once had together and tuck them away. You tell yourself to focus on YOU and that it’s time to move on. You don’t need them to be happy or to validate your self-worth. 


When you’re at peace with the whole ordeal. It’s all distant memories now. No matter what happens, know that you are loved. Your friends and family are there for you. Although the bond you’ve once shared is broken now. You learn, reflect, and understand yourself even better. And now, you know what you truly want, and won’t look for something less. 

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